Spiritual Intelligence A Practical Guide for Personal Happiness
by Khalil S. Khavari, Ph. D.
One of the original books with this title. Copied, but in my opinion, never as accessible and user-friendly as this one. Continues to help many people with sound, down-to-earth language and advice.
The key to life-long self-control: putting yourself in charge of how you think, 
how you feel and how you behave. Controlling how you think will determine your beliefs, your values and the way you process information. Controlling how you feel will allow you to be the one who decides your emotions and the way you respond to the events in your life. Controlling your behavior will help you to avoid the missteps that cause you sorrow and to do the things that bring you joy. "Human happiness is founded upon spiritual behavior." Spiritual Intelligence empowers you to assert self-control and achieve personal happiness.
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What other people are saying about Spiritual Intelligence
"In Spiritual Intelligence, Dr. Khalil Khavari has woven theory, research, and literature from a variety of perspectives and cultural traditions into a wonderfully insightful, thought-provoking argument for the importance of living as a spiritually intelligent being. He advocates balancing our material pursuits with our intellectual, emotional, and spiritual growth so that we may be happy in spite of circumstances and not because of them; 'it isn't what we have that counts, its what we do with what we have.' His description of religious faith as a love affair between God and humanity is deeply touching. The stories, parables, self-tests, and practical suggestions offer important beginning steps toward spending our time here on earth in a more spiritually enriched way."
Dr. June Clausen, Ph.D. Clinical psychologist in private practice and an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of San Francisco.
"Spiritual Intelligence is a gentle reminder that it is intelligent to be spiritual. Dr. Khavari interweaves folk tales and a variety of religious traditions to underscore the point that the word 'religion' comes from roots which mean to 'tie together,' that the spiritual involves not only faith, prayer and values, but also obligations to and support from others."
David Spiegel, M.D. Professor, Associate Chair of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Stanford University School of Medicine
"In his book Spiritual Intelligence, Dr. Khavari challenges superficial concepts of happiness and offers new and penetrating insights into the nature of human reality and the eternal quest for happiness. Blending psychological and spiritual analysis of human potential for fulfillment with practical suggestions, delightful stories and metaphors, the book is a thought-provoking and valuable guide to a topic in which many people are interested. The book covers a vast range of issues intimately related to personal growth and happiness and provides new ideas on as well as tools relevant to the subject. The author's personal reflections on the topic are refreshing and his holistic approach to this important field of life is commendable."
A.M. Ghaderian, M.D. F.R.C.P (C) Professor of Psychiatry, McGill University
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments |
3 | |
PART I |
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Chapter 1 |
THE SEARCH FOR HAPPINESS |
13 |
Can we be happy? |
17 | |
What is spiritual intelligence? |
20 | |
Chapter 2 |
SPIRITUALITY AND HAPPINESS |
25 |
A glance at ourselves |
27 | |
A spiritual view of our nature |
29 | |
Test your spiritual intelligence |
29 | |
What are we, really? |
31 | |
Religion |
39 | |
Understanding the soul |
44 | |
Life and death |
47 | |
Conscience, sin and forgiveness |
49 | |
Hell and heaven |
52 | |
Planning ahead |
54 | |
Chapter 3 |
THE MIND AND HAPPINESS |
57 |
Evolving of the mind |
62 | |
The operating mind |
64 | |
The mind and reality |
66 | |
Programming the mind |
71 | |
Soul-mind-body interactions |
73 | |
Chapter 4 |
SELF-UNDERSTANDING AND HAPPINESS |
75 |
Pleasure and pain |
77 | |
Self-control and happiness |
81 | |
Attitude and happiness |
82 | |
Respect and happiness |
85 | |
Chapter 5 |
CONTRIBUTORS TO HAPPINESS |
89 |
Money and success |
89 | |
Age and gender |
90 | |
Intelligence, community and sex |
91 | |
Health and connectedness |
91 | |
Religion |
91 | |
Love and marriage | 91 | |
Job satisfaction | 94 | |
Inner happiness | 94 | |
Chapter 6 |
LOVE AND HAPPINESS |
97 |
Forms of love | 97 | |
The forces of love and hate | 103 | |
Chapter 7 |
PRAYER AND HAPPINESS |
107 |
Thinking before praying |
109 | |
Prayer by itself is not enough | 109 | |
Prayer as a steering mechanism | 110 | |
Answer to prayers | 110 | |
Prayer is balm to the soul | 111 | |
What to pray for? | 112 | |
A fable about praying | 114 | |
Some sample prayers | 115 | |
Prayers and healing | 117 | |
Chapter 8 |
VIRTUES AND HAPPINESS |
119 |
Help in acquisition of virtues |
122 | |
A metaphor about virtue |
123 | |
List of virtues |
124 | |
The virtue of moral standards |
124 | |
The virtue of humility | 125 | |
The virtue of contentment | 125 | |
The virtue of serving others | 126 | |
The virtue of moderation |
127 | |
The virtue of perseverance and patience |
128 | |
The virtue of wisdom | 129 | |
The virtue of sacrifice | 130 | |
The virtue of saying no | 130 | |
Chapter 9 |
HARDSHIP AND HAPPINESS |
133 |
Types of sufferings | 134 | |
A fable about suffering | 135 | |
A personal story on suffering | 135 | |
Expectations and suffering | 139 | |
Tests versus ordeals | 140 | |
Objective and subjective pain | 140 | |
Blessings and misfortunes | 141 | |
Lessons of hardship | 142 | |
The challenge of a handicap | 142 | |
Psychological pain | 143 | |
The joy of discipline | 145 | |
Health and illness | 146 | |
PART II |
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Chapter 10 |
DEALING WITH FEELINGS |
151 |
Memories and feelings | 153 | |
Forming impressions | 155 | |
Bottling up hurts | 157 | |
Misunderstanding and hurt feelings | 157 | |
Promoting emotional well-being | 158 | |
People and feelings | 162 | |
Dealing with others' feelings | 163 | |
Taking charge and happiness | 163 | |
Self-validation (exercise) | 164 | |
Inducing good feelings | 164 | |
Enhancing good feelings (exercise) | 165 | |
Journeys of joy (exercise) | 166 | |
Beautifying (exercise) | 168 | |
Self-appreciation | 168 | |
Laughter (exercise) | 170 | |
Advantages for laughter and humor | 170 | |
Emotional cleansing (exercise) | 171 | |
Rational cleansing (exercise) | 172 | |
Chapter 11 |
HANDLING ANGER, FRUSTRATION AND GUILT |
175 |
Harnessing anger | 175 | |
Measuring your anger | 178 | |
Handling anger in ourselves | 179 | |
Handling anger in others | 180 | |
Mishandling anger | 181 | |
Subduing anger (exercise) | 184 | |
Dealing with frustration | 184 | |
Coping with guilt | 185 | |
Handling guilt (exercise) | 187 | |
Chapter 12 |
REDUCING STRESS |
189 |
Test your stress level | 189 | |
Classes of stress | 190 | |
The well-being account | 192 | |
Others' stress | 192 | |
Mishandling stress | 193 | |
Danger signs of stress | 195 | |
Sources of stress | 196 | |
Three ways to deal with stress | 196 | |
Mental toughening (exercise) | 198 | |
Unloading burdens (exercise) | 199 | |
Chapter 13 |
MANAGING ANXIETY |
203 |
Security Issues | 203 | |
Strategies for coping with anxiety | 205 | |
Defensive coping with anxiety | 206 | |
Healthy coping with anxiety | 207 | |
Mental fatigue | 209 | |
Reducing mental fatigue | 210 | |
The key prayer | 211 | |
Reducing anxiety (exercise) | 211 | |
Chapter 14 |
THE SOCIAL CHALLENGE |
213 |
Dealing with people | 213 | |
Friendship and happiness | 216 | |
Rules of good relationship | 223 | |
Chapter 15 |
COMMUNICATION, WORD POWER AND CONSULTATION |
225 |
The challenge of communicating | 225 | |
The power of words | 228 | |
Practicing consultation | 234 | |
Consultation attitudes and practices | 235 | |
Essential steps of consultation | 236 | |
Chapter 16 |
RULES, SOCIAL PROGRESS AND PREJUDICE |
239 |
Obsession with rules | 239 | |
Progress and personal happiness | 240 | |
The misery of prejudice | 243 | |
Attractions of prejudice | 243 | |
Some features of prejudice | 244 | |
The toll of prejudice | 245 | |
Chapter 17 |
PROBLEM-SOLVING |
247 |
What is a problem? | 247 | |
Thinking and problem-solving | 247 | |
Confidence and success | 248 | |
Seeing opportunities | 249 | |
Problem-solving procedure | 249 | |
Problem-solving case I (exercise) | 249 | |
Problem-solving case II (exercise) | 250 | |
Handling people-problems | 251 | |
Chapter 18 |
PERSONAL CARE |
253 |
Dealing with eating |
253 | |
Overeating test |
254 | |
Managing sleep |
255 | |
Tips for Going to sleep |
256 | |
Dealing with time pressures |
258 | |
Organizing free time |
259 | |
Having goals |
260 | |
Managing finances |
260 | |
Exercising |
262 | |
Chapter 19 |
SELF-DEVELOPMENT |
263 |
What to do? |
265 | |
Self-evaluation inventory (exercise) | 267 | |
Guideline for a spiritual being |
268 | |
REFERENCES |
270 |